Things I learned from crying through half a movie
July 2, 2012 § Leave a comment
Yes, I have been neglecting my blog. And yes, I come to the part a little late, seeing as the movie I’m talking about was released last year, but hey! Trust it to put things into perspective and mirror yourself back to you in unexpected ways. Tonight’s movie was ‘Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close’ based on Jonathan Safran Foer’s book of the same name.
I blubbered my way through probably half of it. It was just…so…..poignant. It follows the aftermath of 9/11 for one particular boy, Oskar Schell, and how he comes to terms with the loss of his father who was in one of the buildings in 9/11. A year after his father’s death, Oskar finds a key in his closet labelled ‘Black.’ Thinking it was one of the expeditions his father used to set up for him, he ventures out into the world, interviewing every single person named Black living in the 5 boroughs of New York, with the singular goal of finding which lock the key fits into. Some things I’ve come to realise –
- My problems are nothing compared to his. …….but we already knew that.
- Good writing is good.
- Sometimes, people just need to KNOW. The crying fest began at the scene where a distraught Oskar throws a tantrum in front of his mother, borne out of his frustration and anger and his utter need to know a) why his father got killed by a bunch of people who never even knew he existed and b) what the last things his father wanted to say to him were. The mother answers him with the lesson to take away from all this –
- We will never understand everything. And we will go insane and become so so so SO incredibly unhappy trying to. Some things are just meant to be taken for what they are. In fact, most times in life and in reality, a key is just a key. On the other hand…
- Perhaps it’s not the key and what it opens that’s the point. In fact, maybe the point is not the end answer to all things but how one gets to that solution that is The point.
- Oskar had Aspergers which made him, on top of being socially awkward, afraid of everything, including getting on playground swing sets. His father’s end goal was to make him unafraid, which he was at the end of the movie, at the end of Expedition No. 6. And that is what I want for myself, for my children, for anyone I love – to live without fear. To have faith in the kindness of the universe that things WILL turn out for the best. That the road not taken is not your path (Michael Lipsey), that where you are is exactly where you’re meant to be in this moment.
And then there’s Tom Hanks’ voice that makes me cry every single time I imagine him calling out for Wilson from Cast Away.